Friday, October 21, 2005

Few more thoughts

Many people think that in a large family not everyone gets individual attention. Obviously I can't speak from personal experience on this as there are just four kids in my family, but I know that in my friend Luke's family (he's fourth out of 14), his parents frequently do things with just one or two of the kids. Luke and his brother, Mark (the only other one I know) seem to be quite well-adjusted individuals.

The other issue people have with large families is the myth of overpopulation. The world isn't overpopulated, the people just aren't spread out wisely. Every family in the world could live comfortably in part of the US with a modest house and backyard. I believe I've also heard that China, with its one child per family policy, will not be producing enough people to replace the ones that die.

Have kids, won't kill you. ;)

Thursday, October 20, 2005

By now you've all heard...

...of the Duggar family, who recently welcomed their 16th child into the world. (Family website and CNN)

Many people have said that this family has too many kids and that they are being irresponsible. Let me rant on both of those points.

First off, how many kids a couple has is no one's business but theirs and God's. I also believe that as a general rule, there is no such thing as too many kids. Some couples should not have a lot of kids; if they know that they simply cannot parent a large number of kids well, then they should wisely limit their family size. However, many people could handle large families, and if they chose to have several children, let them! Children are a blessing from God, and if a couple wants to accept as many as the Lord gives them, who are we to say that God is blessing them too much?

Secondly, there is the issue of responsibility. Who's more responsible; a couple with 16 kids who live debt-free and have happy, healthy kids or a family with two kids who are living on welfare and have kids who run around getting in trouble with the law, doing nothing productive to contribute to society?

They're living debt-free and have a happy, healthy family. The Duggers with 16 kids, the Arndts with 14 kids (I'm friends with one of them) and many other families with lots of kids don't need our judgements of their family size. They need our friendship, love and support. If you don't/can't have kids, find a family with kids and help them...great training for the future and lots of fun, too! :)

Saturday, October 08, 2005


If Jesus says "Therefore, go..." (Matt. 28:19), why am I still here?

"We must go
Live to feed the hungry
Stand beside the broken
We must go
Stepping forward
Keep us from just singing
Move us into action
We must go."
--"God of Justice"

I'm incredibly fed up and frustrated with my lazy, selfish, comfortable lifestyle when there are so many people that need to be reached for Christ that I could be helping.

Saturday, October 01, 2005

Some thoughts on valleys...

I've been thinking about spiritual valleys lately. I was listening to Caedmon's Call today (big surprise) and one line in their song "Valleys Fill First" really caught my attention. It said "so I'll stay in this valley/if it takes 40 years." That got me thinking about some other songs with that same concept. Ginny Owens sings, "I will go through the valley/if You want me to." (Really, the whole song "If You Want Me To" is fantastic). In "The Valley Song," Jars of Clay says, "I will sing of Your mercy/That leads me through valleys of sorrow/To rivers of joy."

The Bible says that Jesus was "overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death." (Mark 13:43). If that doesn't sound like a valley, I don't know what does. Some people say that spiritual valleys are a result of a lack of faith. To them, I say...well, I won't put it here. ;) Let's just say I think it's a bunch of crap.

I've experienced my share of valleys...they're not fun, but God uses them in our lives. I think that they can be (but are not always) the result of unconfessed sin in our lives. If that's not the issue...then you just gotta keep following God, trusting that He knows where He is leading you through this time and that it will turn out for your good. "I will walk by faith/even when I cannot see/because this broken road/prepares Your will for me." (Jeremy Camp--lost his first wife to cancer before he was 25.)

Hebrews 11:1 says "now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see." It's in times of spiritual dryness that we need to walk by faith. Psalms 62:8b says "pour out your hearts to him." We're to do that not only when times are good, but when life sucks and you feel like God's not there. It's not easy or fun to keep at it when you don't see any results, you feel like you're talking to a wall and wonder if there's a point to it. However, God has promised amazing things for us (1 Cor. 2:9)...we must patiently walk by faith...through the highs and lows of life...someday, we'll see Him, face to face

and it'll be worth it